As a parent, it is almost impossible not to compare what may be going on in your own life with that of others around you. The comparisons unwillingly creep in at the school gates, birthday parties and especially on social media. One child may seem calmer than yours, another family might appear more organised, on top of their weekly meal plans, and suddenly you wonder if you are doing enough.

Comparison is rarely about jealousy, it’s more about uncertainty and looking outwardly for reassurance - but instead of finding comfort, it often ends up in self-doubt.

Every family will have different values, challenges, personalities and routines that shape how each household works. Remember these differences do not mean ‘better or worse’. Some families love routines, others thrive on flexibility. Some children need busy schedules, others need quiet space. What matters most is what works for your family right now.

It’s important to remember that that children are always watching and listening (even when you think they are not!). When they hear comparisons, even subtle ones, they can start to believe they should measure themselves against other’s too. When they see you accept your own family’s rhythms and imperfections, they learn something far more important - their worth is not based on comparison.

Social media can make comparison that much harder. What you are likely to see on social media are highlights of people’s life’s, not necessarily what is going on for those families every day. No one posts the tough mornings or the hard days.

When comparison creeps in, it can help to pause and ask yourself questions such as: What is going well for us right now? What does my child need today? What matters most to us in our family? What are we proud of today? Focus on the positives, even if they feel small.

There is no manual for parenting. If you ever feel like everyone else has it figured out, please remember - your family isn’t behind - you’re just on your own path. And that path is enough.